Oh, that damn social media. We all know the struggle there’s no need to introduce it. Is your phone’s screen the last thing you see before falling asleep? You are not alone.
I started paying more attention to the energy I’ve been wasting for a long time. I slowly grow to understand how bad I felt after scrolling trough my social media feeds for hours sometimes. I feel very ashamed to admit that I spent way too much time with checking, scrolling, updating, stalking (not the creepy, ‘you have to fear your life’ way.. but I’m pretty great at investigating random pages). It started taking shape in my mind that I need to quit. It was hard. Why is it easier to stare at a screen rather than reading a few pages from your favorite book?! No idea.
At the end of the day I started bringing a book with me to bed along with my phone. Guess what was in my hand until the moment I closed my eyes? Yes, you guessed it right. iPhone always won the game. Then the regret came. EVERY.SINGLE.TIME! I was feeling guilty and sad that I had once again chose my phone over a great book. I was up til late wasted precious time and energy.
I knew that I had to change my ways ,I just wasn’t strong enough to act on this feeling.
In the meantime I also bought myself a journal. I carefully selected the perfect one. It took me some time. Went to a few different stores. My husband looked at me like I was crazy. I told him that I just need to feel it..something like love at first sight I guess 😉 Finally I spotted the journal I was looking for. But even after purchasing it, that poor journal was just sitting on my table for months empty, untouched. Every time I planned on writing, I ended up on social media instead.
Then that magical day came when I stumbled upon The happiness project by Gretchen Rubin ( Follow her on Twitter @gretchenrubin
). Reading that book helped me stop making excuses for my bad habits. I have to mention that I’ve seen this book many times at the Strand bookstore in New York but for some reason I never picked it up..until I traveled all to way to Sydney, Australia. I rushed into a shopping mall to use the restroom, got lost and walked by a store called Kikki.K (BEST FREAKING STORE ON EARTH..right behind Nike). And that’s where it registered with me that I need this book in my life. I believe in that everything happens for a reason.
Kikki.K store in Sydney, Australia
I needed to be at that store, at that time to find THAT book. Follow Kikki.K
I was well into reading The happiness project when one day I just sat down and started writing. That’s when I realized what I was missing out on. I was just doodling away when I came up with the following:
Pardon my handwriting.
SLEEP->PRODUCTIVITY “ I’M RESTED “
DISCONNECT FROM SOCIAL MEDIA->PRODUCTIVITY “ I’M MORE AWARE “
READ MORE->PRODUCTIVITY “ I’M WISER”
EXERCISE-> PRODUCTIVITY “ I’M HAPPIER”
So easy, yet so hard to stick to it. Except the exercise part. I got that down already 🙂
A few months ago I quit my job so having more time definitely helped me to focus on the right things.
I’m still a work in progress but I’m doing much better these days. Gave myself a strict schedule where I go to bed by 11pm the latest and wake up 7-7:30 in the morning. I try (and succeed 80% of the time) to disconnect from my phone 45 minutes prior to bed time and just read a good book or write in my journal. I feel much better and when it’s time to shut my eyes closed, I feel the positive energy flowing. I’m more rested and feel more in peace.
Just a few of many things what makes me happy.
What are your thoughts on this subject? Do you have any good advise on how to DISCONNECT?